5 Books You Need to Read This National Book Month

By Taylor Transtrum & Ellie Luciano 

 

Calling all bookworms! National Book Month has arrived—the time to celebrate literary magic, page-turning words and the joy of reading! Our therapists know first-hand the power that books can hold when it comes to our mental health—and lucky for you, they’ve decided to share their favorite fiction and nonfiction book selections to devour this October. Within each page you’ll find unique perspectives, invaluable lessons and journeys of introspection. Your new favorite book awaits you!

 

 

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma 

Author: Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.

Selected by Abby Fink, LMSW, Clinical Program Manager, Group Therapy, Valera Health

Raved about by psychologists everywhere, this #1 New York Times Best Seller is a poignant read that offers keen insights into the science and research behind post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), innovative treatments, pathways to recovery and personal stories about PTSD survivors sure to tug at your heartstrings.

 

 

Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

Author: Rachel Reiland

Selected by Kelly Finn, LCSW, Supervising Therapist and Team Lead, Valera Health

Get Me Out of Here is a gutting memoir that unveils the raw truth of what borderline personality disorder (BPD) feels like from the inside. Sparing no details, Rachel Reitland paints an intricate picture of how her BPD affects every aspect of her life. Even in Rachel’s darkest moments, readers of this book will find hope in her story and discover that with ongoing treatment and determination, healing is possible.

Bonus Read:

“For the comic book readers out there, many of the Wonder Woman graphic novels touch the topics of grief, forgiveness, and diversity—all of which can speak to those of us who struggle with mental health issues in our life.” — Kelly Finn, LCSW, Supervising Therapist and Team Lead at Valera Health

 

 

The Glass Castle: A Memoir

Author: Jeannette Walls

Selected by Victoria Abruzzo, LCSW, Associate Director of Clinical Operations and Supervising Therapist, Valera Health

Described by Entertainment Weekly as “nothing short of spectacular,” The Glass Castle tells the true story of the eccentric yet dysfunctional upbringing of Jeannette Walls. Raised by free-spirited and nomadic parents, Jeannette and her three siblings learned to fend for themselves at a young age, having only each other to lean on throughout their abnormal childhood. In an attempt to forget her difficult past, Jeannette buried these roots for two decades. Now, she’s ready to speak her truth in page-turning detail.

 

 

Happiness for Beginners

Author: Katherine Center

Selected by James Riter, LCSW, Supervising Therapist, Valera Health

After getting divorced at 32, Helen Carpenter struggles to piece her life back together. At the recommendation of her brother Duncan, Helen signs-up for an intense wilderness survival course in the backwoods of Wyoming. Despite her best wishes, it ends up being another disaster on top of a year filled with a seemingly endless stream of disasters. But within the struggle, Helen learns the beauty that can come when faced with life’s hardest challenges.

Brené Brown, professor and New York Times bestselling author, sings praise for this heartfelt novel: “This wise, delicious, page-turning novel won’t let you go. Katherine Center writes about falling down, growing up, and finding love like nobody else. You can always see yourself and the people you love in her characters and their stories.”

 

 

Turtles All the Way Down

Author: John Green

Selected by Ellie Luciano, Clinical Intern, Valera Health

Turtles All the Way Down is a favorite of mine as it’s eye opening, relatable and extremely descriptive. This story is an honest reminder that everyone is going through something whether you can see it or not, and every person’s mental health experience is uniquely theirs. Green does a phenomenal job at putting the harsh reality of living with anxiety and OCD into words through the main character Aza. Aza encompasses what OCD can feel like for many individuals and portrays what goes on in the mind of someone suffering with OCD and anxiety incredibly well—all through the in depth descriptions of compulsions, thought spirals, relationships, and dialogue.” — Ellie Luciano, Clinical Intern, Valera Health

 

You can find all of these fantastic book selections online, in stores or at your local library. For even more great reads, Valera Health offers a virtual book club centered around mental health through engaging discussions and book selections. Visit our group therapy page and calendar to join the next session or to explore other therapy groups (currently available in NY and MA). 

To schedule a free consultation with a Health Connector who can help you get started with group therapy, individual therapy or psychiatry/medication management, click here.

 

6 Mental Health Support Groups for College Students

Navigating college can be a stressful and confusing, yet exciting process—and mental health issues among college students are far more common than one might think. A 2023 report by the National Education Association (NEA) shows that mental health disorders are at an all time high among college students. As part of this report, over 90,000 students across 133 U.S. campuses participated in a mental health survey.

The NEA survey results show:

  • 44% of students reported depression symptoms
  • 37% students reported experiencing anxiety
  • 15% of students surveyed reported considering suicide (the highest rate in the survey’s 15-year history)

The college mental health crisis affects students of all backgrounds, all income levels, all genders and gender identities, all sexual orientations and all races. Which is why Valera Health offers a flexible and robust virtual group therapy program perfect for any college student. Part therapist-led, part peer-led, group members will find support among their peers—no matter what they are struggling with.

What therapy groups are available for college students?

  1. ADHD Support: ADHD can play a huge impact on our ability to navigate school, work and interpersonal relationships. In this supportive skills-based group, participants will learn practical skills for managing ADHD symptoms, maximizing motivation, building confidence, reducing stress, increasing energy and mood, improving relationships and optimizing daily functioning.
  2. Anxiety/Depression: School, work, life stressors, worries and additional troubles can cause impairments in our lives that are challenging to navigate, manage and cope with. In this adult therapy group, participants will learn skills to help them alleviate anxiety and depression through thought processing, mindfulness, social engagement, exposure, and CBT while using a strengths based and person centered approach. Participants will gain social skills, problem solving abilities, decision making efforts, and emotion regulation skills to help increase awareness, mood, energy, and positivity so that they can build self-esteem and confidence to live a more fulfilling and purposeful life.
  3. Intersectionality: This group provides a safe space for those who are BIPOC (Black, Indigenous and People of Color) to freely express themselves amongst a group of their peers. Topics of discussion include trauma, microaggressions, workplace stress, relationships/partnerships and breaking the cycles of unhealthy parental relationships and more.
  4. LGBTQIA+ Support: Open for LGBTQIA+ identifying individuals, this collaborative, community-building and identity affirming group is peer and therapist-led. Together, we will focus on topics including coming out, late bloomers, navigating healthy relationships, communicating with family, building community, queer parenting, accessing gender-affirming care, kink, and non-monogamy. Nothing is off limits!
  5. Anxiety/Trauma: Presented through a trauma-informed lens, this group provides participants with a safe space to improve decision-making skills as well as discuss life transitions, work and/or school-related stress, relationship stress and more. Participants will work with both a therapist and their peers to develop coping strategies that will help them better navigate how to handle daily stressors and other triggers/symptoms of anxiety. Participants will also learn how trauma can impact our daily functioning, life goals and wellbeing and will learn strategies to help overcome these obstacles.
  6. Trauma Survivor Support: Created for young adults (ages 18-25)  who have experienced relational and/or sexual trauma, this group teaches participants a variety of coping skills for responding to and processing trauma. Among the many things participants will learn are self-validation techniques, how to address triggers and grounding techniques for dissociation/fight-or-flight trauma responses. Group participants will also learn how to reframe cognitive distortions and negative thoughts, basic self-care techniques, mindfulness, journaling techniques, how to discuss trauma with family and partners, and how to communicate relationship needs and difficulties around sex. 

How do I sign up?

At this time, the virtual groups listed above are only available in the state of New York. For our group therapy programs, we accept most major insurances as well as offer affordable self-pay rates ($42.50/session). Members must be 18+ to join. 

Valera Health also offers virtual individual therapy and psychiatry in 10 states and 20 languages. 

In addition, patients receive complimentary access to the Valera Health app, which is full of mental health resources and exercises, and access to live chats with your Care Team so that you can continue to make progress inside and outside of sessions. 

We accept most major insurances, Medicaid/Medicare and self-pay in order to make mental healthcare accessible and affordable for anyone in need.

If you’d like to join one of our therapy or support groups, or are interested in receiving individualized care, visit www.valerahealth.com/consult-today/ to schedule a free consultation with a Health Connector today! 

8 Ways to Support a Grieving Friend

 

Grief is a complex and powerful emotion. When the people close to us experience grief, it can be challenging to know how to support them in such a vulnerable state.  When supporting a loved one who is grieving, compassion and empathy are key. 

Everyone grieves differently—some people need a shoulder to cry on while others feel your love through home cooked meals or simply letting your friend know you’re available if they need to talk.

If you know someone struggling with grief, we’ve put together eight ways to help our friends during this fragile time in their lives. 

 

8 Ways to Help a Grieving Friend

  1. Have a sympathetic ear. One of the best ways to help a grieving friend is to simply listen to them. Allow them to feel safe in expressing their emotions, thoughts and needs. Avoiding jumping to putting a positive spin on things or offering advice (unless asked). Really take in what they are saying and let them feel heard. 
  2. Help out with meals. When dealing with grief, even getting out of bed each day can be a struggle, so having the energy to cook yourself or your family meals throughout the day can be extra challenging. Bringing your friend home cooked meals can make all the difference when supporting someone going through a difficult time.
  3. Extend a helping gesture. Grief can make everyday tasks so overwhelming that they seem impossible. Offer to help your friend with things they may feel uncomfortable asking you directly. This can be watching their kids for a couple hours, going grocery shopping, taking their pet for a walk, or helping with sorting through certain belongings.
  4. Check in often. It can be easy to feel like you’re being overbearing, but showing constant support and compassion can go a long way for someone who is grieving. A daily or weekly check in to see how they are feeling and how you can support them can help them feel seen, supported, and loved. 
  5. Validate their feelings. When helping someone through grief, it’s easy to jump to cliches like “time heals all wounds.” Instead, try to acknowledge the difficulty of their grief journey and validate how they feel in that moment. 
  6. Remember the big dates. Dates like one month or year anniversaries, holidays, or birthdays can be extremely difficult for those who have suffered loss. Reach out, whether it means a call, text, note, or showing up to celebrate and remember or mourn. 
  7. Offer to connect them to someone you know who may have gone through something similar. Sometimes one of the most helpful things when going through a hard time is talking to someone who has been through the same experience. Connecting two friends who have gone through similar losses can be extremely helpful for them both. 
  8. Support them in talking to a professional if needed. Grief can be overwhelming and a long process for many. If you notice your friend really struggling to cope,  encourage them to see a professional and offer to look for a professional with them, or even join them for their first session. 


 

Suggesting a grief therapy support group is another great way to help a friend through this difficult time. 

Valera Health offers multiple virtual grief and loss group therapy for individuals living in the state of New York. In these groups, participants will gain mutual support, have a safe space to process their feelings, and learn coping mechanisms to help them through the stages of grief.  Learn more about the benefits of joining a grief support group here

Supporting a friend through grief is a testament to the strength of our friendships and depths of our compassion and sympathy. While we navigate the terrain of loss alongside our grieving friends, it’s important to remember to be kind and help them toward healing and renewal at their own pace.